1 Apr, 2015

We want to talk about women empowerment and we’ll do that by blaming and criticizing each and every man; that’s the Indian way, but everybody has his/her own choice

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THE TWILIGHT SAGA: BREAKING DAWN-PART 2First of all, I apologize for having a go at this whole “My Choice” thing that has stormed the internet and gone viral and for those who still aren’t aware about the war of choices that is rounding the Indian internet just read it and bear with me.

Before I start talking, here’s the Deepika Padukone starrer video that everybody’s talking about:

So, a leading Bollywood actress (Deepika Padukone) stars in a short film titled ‘My Choice’ which is made by a leading Bollywood director (Homi Adajania) and talks about women empowerment. It’s a great film and offers a good message, but that’s just the one side of the story. No, I’m not really criticizing or foul mouthing the work done by Deepika and the director as I don’t intend to, but the real problem I have with the short film (BTW it really isn’t a short film) and with most other short films that talk about women empowerment is that they indirectly miss the real point. I mean yes, it’s a woman’s choice to marry or not to marry, to have sex before marriage, after or don’t have, to love a man, woman or both and all other choices the video speaks, but why can’t be talk about similar choices when it comes to men. We talk about her choices to wear what she wants, her choice to be a size zero or fifty, her choice to love temporarily or lust forever, her choice to come home at 4am then the same applies for him too. He also has a choice to wear what he wants not be called as someone without a fashion sense who doesn’t fit in, he has a choice to be muscular or the happy go lucky fat guy and being called a fatty, he has a choice to love, love temporarily or lust forever and being labeled a womanizer and he too has a choice to arrive late at home and not being called upon to know where the hell he is.


However, here’s the difference; the world hasn’t left any space for men to talk about their choices openly, especially in India. Even the laws are either modified or not modified to provide recourse. Respect or admiration isn’t gender specific it is earned by what we do, what we say and by who we are as a person.

If a man talks about his choices, similar choices (and I’m just citing all the choices the above video speaks about), he is instantly blamed, criticized is targeted, ridiculed, he is thought of as a hunter who’s out to hunt, he is thought of as a teaser, a molester, a rapist and god knows what not. Of course there are men out there who put the mankind to shame, but the similar goes for the women too. Not all men are the same can only be found on blogs like this or on the mouths of those who actually believe this. The choices are the same for Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and Transgenders too. It’s about creating a level playing field where every human being has his/her own space and he/she is respected for who he/she is, what he/she does and how he/she does.

Of course, women empowerment is huge, but there are things that need to be addressed. When one talks about women empowerment or human empowerment as a whole then education, health, hygiene, food, employment, shelter and various other important things need to be highlighted and not just highlighted but worked upon and these aren’t the choices, these are the necessities.

Anyhow, here’s another video and it’s the male version of ‘my choices’ and it ends with a description saying “Respect Women & Men” ‘We don’t support cheating or adultery.’ Perhaps, this talks about the mentality as I never saw a single women centered, women themed video starting or ending with such a message.

BTW, I also believe women empowerment is important and should be the first thing we need to focus on, the women are the ones who run the world, but men are equally important.

Why did I share this video you might ask? Well, it’s my CHOICE!



“So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I'm still trying to figure out how that could be.” -Stephen Chbosky
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